What to do?

I have a friend who is in the middle of a pregnancy scare. The scary thing is there is a part of her that wants the worst to happen because it would give her an out from her life. I told her that I thought "surely there must be a better way" but she can't seem to see it. She is 17.

It saddens me. Her boyfriend (two years older) is terrified. Its odd also because I always thought she would be smarter than that. Not that she would she would abstain from sex but that she would take all the neccesary precautions. Its ironic how these things work out.

Since I don't believe in god all I can give you is my love and support and hope, that everything will be ok.

It makes me wonder how I would deal with that. I don't think I would be strong enough. Being self contained has its drawbacks. From the pedestal of distance I can look down and say well "I would never let myself get into that situation in the first place." But is that really true?

I think people that judge others lack the ability to imagine themselves in anothers place. Making those mistakes. Even when deep down inside they know it could just as easily be them. I hold no illusions about myself and my propensity for mistake making. What I truly don't know is how I would cope with them.